Saturday, June 27, 2009Tweet
Updates on everything:
Job: I called and accepted. No problem getting the week of the honeymoon off. They're super nice there. Even offered to see if I could fill out my hiring paperwork with my married name to save the hassle of changing it a few weeks later, but of course that wouldn't work because I don't exist with my married name at the Social Security office yet. I spent an hour or so the other night working out the daily commute for Mike and me--we'll be driving to the train station together and taking the train to the city before going our separate ways.
Candida: Who knows anymore. I think I'm kidding myself if I say that the throat-clearing I'm doing nowadays is significantly improved from before I started the diet. I'm supposed to go off it in a few days. Now that I will have health insurance soon, I think I'll go be poked and prodded at the doctor and see what s/he can make of it. At least I'll know I tried it my way first.
Acne: Going to the dermatologist on Monday. I feel like everything magically cleared up in the past 24 hours, which I'm concerned is temporary and will only last long enough for the dermatologist to see me and send me on my way. My chest area still has bumps, but they don't seem as noticeable anymore. And my face has some red spots, but I think those are mostly scars from earlier years of picking at my face. So I guess, assuming this lasts, the progress here is good.
Wedding: I've given up on getting the priest stuff straightened out before the home church priest retires. Either the school priest's phone is broken again or he just sucks at returning phone calls. Mike's been awesome about going shopping for wedding stuff--I think we've bought everything we needed to buy, and night before last we ordered all of our gifts for our attendants (which I'm hoping turn out awesome). The main things on my to-do list right now involve people returning phone calls: The priest. The reception coordinator. The florist. The babysitter. And the wedding coordinator at church needs to send me electronic copies of our music so I can put the worship aides together. We're going out of town next week for the Fourth of July weekend and I have a feeling things are going to kick into major high gear with wedding stuff once we get back. Particularly since I'll be moving and starting my job soon after. Eek!
Projects: iMovie corrupted the file that had my home videos, so I took a break from that project since I'll have to start over with labeling everything. Instead, Mike and I organized and dated all of our electronic copies of our digital pictures from the time we started college to now, and then got all 3200 pictures printed and bought 18 albums to put them in. We picked them up yesterday and started getting them sorted and labeled so they'll be ready to go in albums. I'm going to work on that tonight while he's out at his bachelor party :)
Time to switch out laundry loads and then read my benefits info from my new job. Life never slows down!
Monday, June 22, 2009Tweet
What a busy past week!!
Biggest news: I got offered the job I interviewed for last week. THANK GOD! I'm actually really excited about it because I think it will be a very fun environment to work in. I'm going to have two weeks to train with the person in the position now, which eases my nerves a little bit about my ability to do the job. I haven't accepted yet because I want to make sure I get together any questions I have and ask them those (including whether it will be a problem to take off the week for my honeymoon). But the salary offered is about the highest I was hoping for for my first job out of school, which helps me feel better about our ability to support ourselves during Mike's second year of school.
My best friend (one of my best friends!) got married this past weekend. The ceremony and reception were absolutely beautiful and perfect for the two of them. They've been dating for about 8 years (since high school) so it wasn't at all weird to think about them as married because they've been permanently paired in my mind for so long. Three other friends and I sang "The Prayer" at the ceremony, and we were all very happy with how it went.
I took a one-day break from my anti-candida diet so that I could enjoy their wedding cake (which was really, really good!!). That night I was clearing my throat incessantly, which I'm thinking may be because of the food, but could also be because I was losing my voice anyway from singing for about four straight hours the day before (minus the 45 minutes we were stuck in traffic on the way to the rehearsal) and talking in a loud restaurant for the rehearsal dinner. I was losing my talking voice and clearing my throat at the wedding in the morning from all of that the night before, so really I have no idea what's going on. I went back on the Internet and got frustrated like I usually do by all the contradictory information about candida. I told Mike I would go off the diet July 1, but I think I'm going to have to stay somewhat on the diet just to keep the throat thing under control for a while, at least until I get health insurance back and can go to the doctor to get another opinion.
Now that my friend's wedding is done, we've kicked wedding planning into high gear in my house. Mike and I bought a ton of stuff last week (guestbook, ribbon for the cake, placecards, thank-you notes, gift bags for our attendants' gifts) and my mom picked up the cake topper we wanted yesterday. I made Mike make decisions on all the guests whose addresses we still didn't have (either find a new way to get their address or we're taking them off the list), and I've started our seating chart. We got everything straightened out (more or less) with the reception place, so we at least have a correct floor plan put together. At some point I need to add some more detail to my master schedule and get that to all our vendors so we can make sure everything's straight in everyone's minds.
The VHS-DVD project is on hold because the files apparently got corrupted in iMovie, so I'm probably going to have to redo all the projects. I started on a new project, which is getting all of my and Mike's digital pictures from college printed so I can get them in albums and get pictures of my friends' weddings in albums before our wedding. I don't know if it will happen, but that's the goal.
Overall things are good but very, very busy!!
Wednesday, June 17, 2009Tweet
I am glad that the hellish day that was yesterday is over.
The morning, thankfully, was not that bad, aside from having to wake up at 6:30am. I pretty much had a nervous breakdown the night before because I was completely exhausted and had no idea how to get where I was going the next day. Mike was an angel and gave me incredibly detailed instructions, including printing off a map that included all legs of my trip. He dropped me off at the train station at 8; I took the train into the city, walked a few blocks to the L, swiped his card right where he told me to, took the L two stops over, walked a few blocks, and then took his suggestion to stop and catch my breath at a coffee shop. There was a Dunkin Donuts on the way, and the woman behind the counter gave me a cup of water, for which I was very grateful, and then a whole crowd of people came in so I wasn't awkward that I just took my free water and sat at one of their three chairs for the next 15 minutes.
The interview itself went fine; I don't know what they thought of me or what the other candidates are like, but I didn't walk out of there feeling like I said anything stupid or forgot to say something important. I said "um" more than I wanted to and probably more than I even realized, but I think my other nonverbals -- eye contact, posture, hand gestures -- were good. I asked a good number of questions. They said the projected start date is mid-July, which would be perfect as long as they don't mind me taking that week off for my honeymoon. But who knows if they'll even offer it to me.
Mike had spent a long time at home fighting with our error-ing GPS system, so he got there later than planned, which was fine because I just walked to Millennium Park and read, and we couldn't pick up the bed until noon anyway. We got there, loaded the bed on the truck, covered it with a tarp in case of rain, strapped it down, paid the person we were buying it from, and got on the road. No problems there.
Then we spent over two hours in stop-dead traffic because there was an accident. And it started pouring rain. The mattress, fortunately, didn't get that wet, thanks to the tarp, but the box spring underneath it got soaked on the sides. When we got home, we pulled in the garage, hoping the rain would let up while we ate lunch, which it didn't, so we carried the bed through the rain and into the house. We managed, with much difficulty and some paint scratches, to get the bed frame down to the basement, but the mattress and box spring wouldn't fit around the bend in the stairs.
...Edit...Too much bitching about other people...
Today I'm going to make myself some breakfast, do Wii Fit, shower, work on my family videos, and then get the hell out of here and go help my friend whose wedding is on Saturday. I still have 24 days until I move out. I'm just trying to conceptualize that time as the time I have left to finish these video projects.
Now the Internet's not working. Awesome.
I try not to wish for time to pass quickly given that life is short (for the extended explanation, see the movie Click), but I can't help but feel that I'm going to be in such a better place mentally and emotionally in about two months when I have an apartment, a job, and a husband.
EDIT: Just opened what I thought was finally the floor plan and the wine lists from the reception coordinator. It was only the floor plan -- and it was wrong!! It wasn't even close to what we talked about! Plus she said she was going to send us several options, and all she sent us was one copy of a floor plan that's not what we talked about! Aaaah!
Sunday, June 14, 2009Tweet
Mike and I had a nice, quick trip to Ohio and got to see his mom. We also got to see -- and stay with -- one of my bridesmaids, a friend from college I lived with for the past three years. We stayed up late talking and I realized how much I missed living with her. We had great conversations this past year when it was just the two of us in one house.
Good developments with the job search: Got a call for a face-to-face interview on Tuesday for the job I had a phone interview for last week. I applied for a job and sent in requests for freelance projects to a few places yesterday. I talked to a freelance editor yesterday who said it's possible to freelance while having a full-time job if you take on one project at a time and don't have other commitments (like kids) that could interfere with making deadline. I don't have any proof of any real competencies (like a degree in math) that would sell me as a copyeditor, so she suggested I start out asking for proofreading jobs and then show them I can catch content errors as well.
Frustrations with wedding planning: Home church priest, who is retiring in a few weeks, called last week to say we were missing paperwork. As far as I can tell, most of what we're missing, the school priest (who's presiding at our wedding) has, which he's been compiling because everyone we talked to at the home church (the staff, not the priest) said that was fine, whatever the school priest wanted to do. Home church priest gets annoyed at us for not telling him anything, not having the right paperwork, whatever. We say, we're going to Ohio and meeting with the school priest, we'll get the paperwork. Try for a week to get a hold of the school priest. Finally get a hold of him Thursday night, he's been out of town for a week and his phone was broken. Says he doesn't need to meet with us again, but will call the home church priest first thing in the morning, get a list of everything he needs, and drop it in the mail ASAP. He says he'll call me in the morning if there's any problem or any reason we need to come see him before we leave Ohio. Friday afternoon, we leave and drive back to Chicago. Saturday (yesterday) afternoon, go to church, see the home church priest, ask if the school priest called, he says NO and is not happy. So now what???
Additional frustrations: Reception coordinator promises a month ago to send us bill, floor plan, wine list. She forgets. I e-mail her. She mails us the bill only, which is for way more than they said. My mom calls her. She doesn't appear to see an issue with their wildly misleading us on the cost, promises to send us the floor plan and wine list. Still nothing. My mom keeps trying to mentally seat people at the reception as she finds out who's feuding and what not, and I really want to start putting together a seating chart, but I have no floor plan to base it on. So far we have 96 accepted, 57 declined, and almost 300 who haven't RSVP'd yet.
I've started having wedding dreams. Night before last, I dreamt about my friend's wedding that's coming up this weekend. It was 1:45pm and the wedding was at 2pm and 45 minutes away from our house (her wedding's actually at 10am, ours is at 2pm), I couldn't get my family out of the house to leave, I couldn't leave on my own because my dad had the invitation with the address, which he couldn't find, and he was trying to carry on a conversation with me about the news, utterly unconcerned that I was missing my best friend's wedding that I was supposed to be singing at, that would probably be over by the time we got there.
Then last night I had a dream that it was the day of our wedding and the entire bridal party was hanging out at our house. I was already dressed for some reason, and I had to go fix something in the basement, and nobody else would help me, and eventually Mike came down and helped me, and then I realized he wasn't supposed to see me in my dress but at that point it didn't really matter. I woke up and went back to sleep, and I dreamt about the rehearsal dinner, which was in this giant school-cafeteria-type room and my aunt was mad at me about something, and I was looking for my brother because I hadn't seen him in forever. (He's gone for the weekend, maybe that's why.) Anyway -- very weird. I need to call my friend and see how she's doing. I'm waiting to burden her with any matron of honor duties until she gets back from her honeymoon :)
Oh, Mike and I made a pumpkin pie last night. I've really wanted to make a dessert for myself since my mom keeps baking stuff I can't eat (she made cookies yesterday), but I just haven't had the time or energy. It had to set overnight and it's chilling in the fridge now, but hopefully I can eat it as soon as Mike gets home from work!
I can eat normally again: 17 days
I move out: 27 days
I get married: 48 days
Monday, June 8, 2009Tweet
My phone interview seemed to go well today. I should know in the next week if they want me to come in for a face-to-face interview. I felt like I gave good answers to the questions. They didn't ask me a lot of "typical" questions, except for how I handle frustration/stress, so those will probably come in the face-to-face interview. They said they'll make the decision in the next few weeks, so that at least leaves the possibility of hearing about another job by then just to have a comparison. But we shall see.
Mike was awesome and did a practice interview with me this morning. On the phone. In the same house. Because he's that awesome.
I was out shopping with my mom this morning (found lots of delicious snack foods I can have! yay!) and was clearing my throat a lot, which hasn't happened in forever. That gave me hope that the candida die-off has started. Of course, this also caused me to start losing my voice, and I thought that was going to mean hell for my phone interview. But my voice was fine by the time I did the interview. It would make sense if my die-off was starting now, because from what I've read it generally takes at least a month, plus I just starting taking Candida QuickCleanse, so that should have started killing off all the weakened candida. So if that's the case, hooray! I'm still going to stay on the diet until the end of the month, but I hope this means I won't have to worry about going back to eating certain foods.
I'm probably not going to eat the way I did before the diet ever again. I'm too conscious now of everything that's in different food, especially processed food. Most likely the changes to my diet will be things like eating fruit and pasta again. And bread. My mom made banana bread again today. Smells sooooo good.
We got a call today that we can come put a deposit down on our apartment. They had to do some minor repair work and it will be ready by the weekend, so we're probably going to go on Saturday. They're being very laid-back about everything, which is awesome because it means that my dad doesn't have to co-sign our lease, he just had to sign to guarantee payments. So as soon as I have a job (which could be soon!), I can just start paying our rent payments.
Also, somebody from Mike's school is selling a barely-used queen bed (frame, boxspring, mattress) for $250. We're going tomorrow to give her half as a deposit and then will pick it up when she moves out in a couple of weeks. Now all we're missing is a good dining room table, but we decided to just use the free one from my parents with some folding chairs and then buy one once I'm moved in, so we only have to move it once.
The DVDs have been giving me minor problems, but I hope to have them fixed soon!
Sunday, June 7, 2009Tweet
Things are getting back to normal a bit. The painters are gone, so I could start doing Wii Fit again, except I majorly pulled a muscle or something in my leg so I can barely walk on it, much less test my balance on the Wii. Boo. But I'm going to try to get back into my schedule of 1 hour Chicago Manual of Style, 1 hour of Distributed Proofreaders a day.
The breakfast went really well yesterday. In some ways I actually feel like it was practice for my interview tomorrow because I was able to bring up different stories at appropriate times and tell them briefly and coherently, which is what I tried to teach my students to do when talking about past jobs or projects on an interview. There were six other members there, some employed full time and some not, and we mostly talked about social media. I actually felt very comfortable jumping into the conversation with ideas or things I'd read or heard about. I also got a couple leads on places to possibly apply, and one of the co-leaders said she'd send me information on the people in the organization who work there or have contacts there. I sent e-mails last night to a few people I'd met so I hopefully don't lose those connections.
When Mike got home from work, we went with my parents back to the apartment we liked so we could put in an application. My parents were very happy with the area and the complex, and when we found out we couldn't get the smaller 1BR apt. in a building with indoor stairs, we opted for the bigger 1BR (still cheaper than anyplace else we looked), which made my mom feel better. So we actually have an address now, which is an amazing thing. We set the move-in date for July 11th, since we'll be out of town the weekend before, and the weekend after Mike and I are going to his mom's house, so we can rent a U-Haul and get all of his old furniture while we're there. When we got home we re-did the construction paper diagram and moved our paper furniture around for a while to get a setup we were pretty happy with.
We picked up the $25 tables when we got back from the apartment, and they are great. We spent a long time looking online for dining room sets -- we have a little kitchen table, but no chairs, that we can take from my parents, but now that we have a bigger apartment we can fit a bigger table. We found one for $60 from someone in the area, so I e-mailed to ask if we could just look at it. They didn't post dimensions, but it fits six chairs, so it's gotta be decent.
My mom got a call yesterday from our parish priest that we're apparently missing a bunch of paperwork for the wedding that nobody told us we needed to do, and it wasn't in any of the materials the church gave us. Fortunately we still have time, but we need things like certified copies of our baptismal certificates, which we already got and gave to the priest who's actually doing the ceremony, so I don't know if we need to order more copies, or what.
Additionally, we finally received the (very late) info from the reception place, and it didn't have half of the stuff it was supposed to. We were supposed to get wine lists, floor plans, etc., and all we got was a bill, which was for way more than they had indicated it was going to be. My mom called our contact there, who I'm sure is out or busy for the weekend, so hopefully we'll hear back tomorrow.
Now that I have a moving date, I mentally divided up projects that I can do after I move and those that have to be done here, and basically I'm going to focus solely on getting our home videos onto DVDs before I move. I'm having an issue with iDVD that apparently other people are too (movie starts playing before the menu even though it's set not to), but can't find any answers. I can still get the tapes onto the computer, though. Yay projects!
Friday, June 5, 2009Tweet
Things are moving forward.
Mike and I looked at apartments today. We found three that we liked, and the one that had the highest ratings on apartmentratings.com (80% -- unheard of!) was also the cheapest and in a nice area, so duh, we're going to take it. My mom was obsessing over how small the bedroom was on the floor plan and trying to compare it to other apartments even though we'd already 100% made our decision. Mike made a construction paper floor plan with little furniture to show that everything fits. We are getting from my parents a double bed (until we can afford our own queen), a couch, a dining room table, and two DVD shelves (all stuff they're getting rid of because they like to buy new stuff); from Mike's old bedroom stuff there's a computer desk, a dresser, a nightstand, and a bookshelf; and we found a coffee table and end table set online for $25, which is basically all we were missing.
On the way home from looking at apartments we started talking about budgeting. We decided that even though I don't have a monthly income yet, we can figure out approximately how much our monthly expenses would be and how much I would need to make for us to be able to put away some savings every month. That should help me set standards for my salary negotiation as well.
I'm starting to feel this growing anxiety in the pit of my stomach, and I'm not entirely sure where it's coming from. I know part of it is the fact that I have this networking breakfast tomorrow morning that I'm horribly nervous about because I want to make a good impression to hopefully help me land a job (not to mention that I will have to find something I can eat on this diet). My hope is that they don't get new members very often so they will ask me lots of questions. Answering questions I can do. Thinking of thoughtful questions to ask other people, I suck at.
My job search in general is psyching me out a little bit. I'm starting to get anxious about my phone interview on Monday, and I figured out today that since I graduated I have applied, on average, to one job every two days. One job every two days! And only one interview! This makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong. Considering that, as part of my teaching job, I read everything I could get my hands on for an entire school year regarding job-hunting advice, if there's something I'm not doing, or doing wrong, I can't imagine what it is.
Also, despite Mike's insistence that my face looks better, I think it looks like crap, and I have a giant pimple on my forehead.
And even though I have this "super-healthy" lifestyle, my menstrual cycle has decided to become massively f-ed up this month.
I'm going to bed so I'm not exhausted for this breakfast tomorrow. Maybe things will look better from tomorrow.
Wednesday, June 3, 2009Tweet
I feel like I'm perpetually hungry, and my choices of available food are limited. In a way I guess this is a blessing because I can't just absentmindedly snack all day long, but on the other hand my mom has been baking and buying all this delicious stuff, like chocolate chip banana bread muffins, mini cinnamon rolls, giant blueberry muffins, etc. I really miss baked goods. Even bread. I have to keep reminding myself that this is two months out of my entire life, and I only have 27 days of the diet left. I will definitely have a greater appreciation for food when I go off the diet. Even tonight at Subway, all I could get was a very basic salad, adding my own sugar-free dressing at home, and I devoured the entire thing until my stomach hurt. Now I'm hungry again.
I spend all day doing stuff, yet I feel like I've done nothing at the end of the day. Today my mom and I went to compare the different groom vest colors to my wedding dress (the very nice woman at the dress shop showed us that Mike needs an ivory shirt as well as an ivory vest). Then I mostly worked on transferring VHS tapes onto the iMac the rest of the day, while working on my iTunes library and doing an hour of Distributed Proofreaders. I e-mailed our wedding coordinator at the reception place to get all the info we're missing. I applied for yet another job. What do I have to show for it all at the end of the day? Not much.
Tomorrow I plan to make the business cards I need for a networking breakfast I'm going to on Saturday. Then I'll at least have something tangible to show Mike when he gets home from work. I have other projects that I need his help with, but I'm going to wait until he's done with his finals next week. Then he'll just be working at Bob Evans most of the week and not have anything to do in the evenings. I will be sitting at home all day as usual. Or maybe I'll land a job in the next week. Who knows? I still have that interview on Monday.
Yay, Mike's home!
Tuesday, June 2, 2009Tweet
I've gotten a little bit off-track with stuff. Due to wedding/other events, I ate intelligently but not strictly on my diet for three days, and the throat clearing came back. I ran out of some of my vitamins and other supplements. We're having the family room painted due to everyone coming here for the wedding, so the TV where I do Wii Fit is under plastic dropcloths. But I should be back on track soon, and I have been accomplishing things, so that's good.
My friend's wedding was nice. The whole thing seemed kind of unreal, and I can't really think of my friend as married yet. People kept asking if we were "getting ideas" for our own wedding, but the answer was, not really. We have most everything planned. If anything, there were a few moments where I was grateful we're doing things the way we are (e.g., having vegetarian options for dinner, doing the cake cutting where the cake is visible to everyone, not choreographing our dances).
It turned out I did not mishear the woman on the phone, and the phone interview was not yesterday, so it is on June 8th. I feel I will be very prepared by then. Mike has a final on June 10th that I'm going to help him study for in the next week, so we can prep for my interview too. Maybe I'll land another interview in the next week, too . . . well, I can hope.
I sent out seven more invitations today to people whose addresses we just got or whose I found. So far we have 64 accepted, 40 declined, waiting on 345. Our deadline is July 1, so I have a feeling we'll get a rush at the end of the month. Then I can start on the seating chart. For that I need the floor plan from our coordinator at the reception place, who I'm pretty sure forgot about us, so I need to e-mail her tomorrow. Tomorrow my mom and I are also borrowing white and ivory vests from our very nice local Men's Wearhouse to take to the bridal shop to compare to my dress, because neither of us can remember the exact shade well enough, and Mike is afraid if his vest is whiter than my off-white dress it will make my dress look dull. He is very thoughtful.
Supposedly we're going to look at apartments on Friday. I really hope we just find something that we can run with. I can't wait to move out of here.
In 60 days we'll be married!