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The Blogging Circle of Life

Sunday, October 9, 2011

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When I was in high school, I kept an "online diary." I also read other people's online diaries. This is how I met my best guy friend. We always said we met through speech team -- and that is how we managed to meet each other in real life, at a speech tournament -- but the truth is that I started leaving comments on his online diary, and eventually we became friends.

When I used to tell people that I read other people's diaries online, they thought it was the weirdest thing. Why would you want to read all about some stranger's life? Funny how commonplace that very thing is in an age with "blog" is now a buzzword.

If you've been around FPL for any period of time you know that I love giving and getting advice. And what I do here on this blog, I do on a larger scale with the blogs I read. That is, I greatly appreciate when you guys leave me suggestions in comments when I need advice, and I try to do the same for other bloggers when they solicit advice. And I seek out blogs that give advice for living, particularly those that share my perspective and values.

One of my favorite blogs is 'Becca's The Earthling's Handbook. I was so grateful to find her blog because it's like all the things I have in my head about how I want to be in 10 years, she's already there and has provided a road map for getting there. I've read through all 100+ posts she has on parenting, not just for the great practical tips like granting second chances and thinking out loud, but because her approach and philosophy toward parenting is exactly the spirit I hope to have as a parent. And things like using cloth diapers and line-drying laundry, which I want to do but have never known anyone who did, she's been there, done that, and has tips on how to do it.

This is exactly what I hope to do with my own blog, why I share things that work for me to increase my happiness, strengthen my faith, or improve my marriage. I want to pass along the guiding light for where I've been, while I look ahead to the guiding light of others like 'Becca.

This is what I love about bloggers. Everyone has something to offer. College students give advice to high school students; graduates give advice to college students. Married people give advice to dating people; dating people give advice to single people. Parents give advice to other parents and to future parents.

But it's not in your face. No one is coming to your house and saying, "You need to do this." We bloggers just put it out there in the hopes that someone who needs it will come along and pick it up.

Sometimes nobody does. But we keep writing anyway.

So today, thank a blogger who's made a difference for you -- who's given you advice, or a model for where you want to be, or changed your perspective on something. Because all of us started somewhere, with no readers, no subscribers, no comments, just putting our thoughts out on the Internet and hoping they'd connect with someone.

To all my fellow bloggers: Thank you, for your courage to be honest, your persistence to keep writing, and your willingness to open your life up to strangers in hopes that it might make a difference somehow. You've made a difference for me.


  1. Thank YOU, Jessica!! This is great - and it's fun that we were on the same page this week.

  2. Great article! I'm so glad I'm inspiring you! I try. :-)

    I was on the Internet in 1991, when only the most high-tech universities and corporations were connected, so discussion boards open to the entire Internet might have only a few dozen people posting on them. It was a really interesting way to get to "know" people, through text only, who might be on the other side of the world or sitting at the computer on the other side of the room, and they were ALL smart people! I got a lot of inspiration and informal mentoring when I was a college student from people I never met in person.

    There were also discussion boards within our campus computer network, and the geek social organization I joined used ours to great advantage. We did lots of stuff in person, but we also talked online. Older students gave a lot of good advice to freshmen. If you needed something, you could post, and somebody would volunteer. It was a great little community--and it's still there for the current members of the organization. I love that.

  3. Oops! Your link for "thinking out loud" actually goes to the "second chance" article. Here's the correct link:

  4. @'Becca
    Our college has an internal discussion board for students, and they use it very much that way--asking for advice, mentoring each other, forming groups, etc. Not exactly the same because they're all on the same campus, but the same sort of idea where people just put questions and information out there and other students respond. It's a great way for first-year students to seek advice from older students even if they don't really know anyone yet.

    Thanks for the heads up about the link! I must have not successfully copied the second link and so it just pasted the previous one again. It's fixed now!

  5. Thank YOU, Jessica! I agree entirely. Everyone has their own unique perspective to offer and so much to offer other.

  6. @Erin
    I think it's an indication of complex we are as humans that so many different people can write about so many different things that all resonate with us somehow. It never ceases to amaze me when I find a new blogger, writing about something completely different than the other blogs I subscribe to, and I think, yes, you too are like me! You are right: Everyone has something unique to offer.


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