At the end of every month, I share my favorite comments from that month's posts, and you're invited to do the same and link up below!
This month was super-light (5 posts) because of the move to Whoville. But of course, you all still had some fantastic comments for me to choose from!
When I came back from hiatus, it was to share 10 Tips for a Smooth Cross-Country Move.
Queen of Carrots agreed that 104 degrees was not ideal moving weather:
Our first four moves were always in the worst possible weather--either the hottest or the coldest day of the year. Since then we've managed to stick to spring or fall, and we moved cross-country in a gorgeous stretch of October weather. We didn't do the truck, though (my dad and stepmother drove it). If you've got an MP3 player, you can download free audios online, which helps if you're paranoid about library returns, and also gives you a wider selection in case something isn't quite the thing. (Of course, the free ones will all be older books.)
And 'Becca added a tip about refilling water bottles:
Nice post! Consider linking this to Works-for-Me Wednesday tomorrow--it's what worked for you!
I'm glad your move went so smoothly and you're liking Whoville so far.
We usually refill our water bottles at the cold-water spout of the soda fountain in gas station stores. I have never had a clerk object to that when we were buying gas. (But it was a good idea to use up your emergency bottled water; it does go bad after a while. We had bought water for Y2K that we wound up opening in the summer of 2001 when there was a water main break--and we decided it was not safe to drink because it smelled like a stagnant parking-lot puddle, both muddy and chemical!)
We had a great conversation about ethics in the workplace on Faith, Ethics, and Work: What Does Success Really Look Like?
I also have a lot of trouble talking myself up or boasting of my achievements for job applications and interviews. I really would prefer to be humble, but I think it's true that it often comes across to potential employers as a lack of confidence. A really interesting study I read about recently found that people who score much higher in trait narcissim do much better a job interviews and are viewed as more confident because of how much they talk themselves up (regardless of whether they actually would be better at the job).
I also am concerned about gossip. I think it not only impacts job prospects, but also whether I just generally get along with colleagues - if they're not gossiping with you they might be gossiping about you! I don't really have answers about that one either unfortunately.
And Sarah said these concerns impacted her career choice:
Conflicts of faith/ethics at work is actually what caused me to decide not to pursue a career in journalism three months before I graduated from college.
After working with a paper for 20+ hours a week, I realized just how much I had to do to move up the ladder as a journalist and just how much of that I wasn't willing to do. It put me in an awkward position for a while, because if I wasn't going to do what I had studied to do...what was I going to do?
I'm still figuring it out, but now that I'm in an actual office environment, I struggle a lot with the gossip thing. My other coworkers love to bash each other behind each others backs and I have to remind myself that that isn't professional or Christ-like behavior.
Also, 'Becca and Modern Mrs. Darcy posted responses to this post!
Finally, I appreciated the readers who understood the point I was trying to make with This Is What Privilege Looks Like.
Fire Fairy said:
I often feel like this about the clothing industry. I know a lot of people who buy lots of cheap clothes from shops that have a poor track record regarding their factory workers, and they just don't care about that. Instead, they're thrilled that they've got multiple bargain buys. I'm not perfect - I would love to buy all Fairtrade clothes, but I don't have a massive income. I remedy this by buying fewers clothes than I used to so that I can buy Fairtrade stuff, and also by staying aware of where what I'm buying comes from, so am making informed choices when I shop. I do actively boycott Primark, and also the Arcadia group who own Topshop. But I am also part of a little group called 'Don't Shop Quietly', which encourages us to shop at places we like but to challenge the policies of those stores and to push for fair wages and working conditions for their workers. It's true that a lot of clothing chains in the UK have improved over the past few years, but they've still got a long way to go! There is a lot of power in the customers campaigning, and they do listen.
I also boycott Nestle because they infuriate me beyond belief. KitKats are now Fairtrade, so why isn't the rest of their chocolate? The same goes for Cadbury's - only their Dairy Milk is Fairtrade.Sure it's progress, but it's too little for such massive companies when they could be doing so much more. KitKat and Dairy Milk going Fairtrade were the successful results of consumer campaigns, and it shows that campaigning does work, but even so it can be difficult to support an organisation who goes against what you believe, so sometimes it's easier to boycott. However, I acknowledge it is probably better to keep on campaigning, and something I am seeking to do more of.
And Mary Kate shared her thoughts on the right to boycott:
If it's something you don't believe in then you have every right not to go there. For example, I know many people who do not want to buy at Target now or who do not want to buy General Mills or Nabisco products because of their support for SSM. So I don't see a problem with letting them know you're not happy with stances and keeping your money from them. I find it interesting from a business perspective that ANY of these businesses would want to take a stance on it (you'd think they would want the chance for EVERYONE'S business, gay or straight), but hey, they are privately run business and all of them can do that. One guy on Facebook who was gay and pro-SSM thought it was ridiculous that I wouldn't buy something from Target, but he was doing the same thing by not going to Chick-Fil-A. When I tried explaining that he proceeded to say that I was "stupid".[See my responses to her questions here.]
As far as the hiring piece goes (I'm not trying to stir anything up, I just want an answer):
1. How are the hiring managers finding out people are gay/lesbian? If they are asking flat out then it's stupid and illegal, and
2. Why would a gay person want to work at CFA?
Thanks once again for taking the time to share such interesting and important thoughts here. You all rock!